A Steady Soul™
For women who are tired of letting guilt, obligation, and other people’s reactions decide for them.
You are really good at noticing everyone else. What they need. How they feel. Whether they are disappointed.
Sometimes you say yes before you even check with yourself. Sometimes you are not sure what you want. And sometimes you do know, until someone else reacts.
Then you start wondering: Was I selfish? Did I hurt them? Should I explain? Maybe I should just do it.
Do this long enough and you get better at hearing everyone else and worse at hearing yourself.
You may not even know what you want anymore. What you like. What matters to you. What you want your life to be about.
You can love people and include your own needs too.
That is the work of A Steady Soul™.
What Happens Before and After You Answer
Someone asks for help, and you say yes before checking your plans. Later, you realize you needed that time for yourself.
Or you say, “I want to stay home tonight.” They sound disappointed, and you start wondering whether you should go after all.
In A Steady Soul™, we practice both moments:
Before you answer: Give yourself time to notice what you want.
After someone reacts: Check whether you want to change your answer or feel guilty about keeping it.
You can listen to someone else and still consider your own needs. You can say yes because you want to, instead of agreeing before you’ve had time to think.
What This Is Quietly Costing You
One yes may not feel like a big deal.
One favor. One changed plan. One more thing you did because it felt easier than disappointing someone.
But when this happens over and over, something starts to change.
You get really good at listening to everyone else.
And you start trusting yourself less.
You feel guilty, so you think maybe you did something wrong.
Someone gets disappointed, so you think maybe your answer was wrong.
And little by little, their feelings start having more say than yours.
Then the question is not just:
Why did I say yes?
It starts to become:
Why does my life look like mine and still not quite feel like mine?
That is why this matters.
Not because you should always get your way.
Because you are in this life too.
The Pause Before the Pour™
Before the automatic yes, there is a moment.
Someone asks for something and you are already thinking about them.
What do they need?
Will they be disappointed?
Can I make this work?
The Pause Before the Pour™ is one breath in that moment.
Just long enough to ask:
Have I checked with myself yet?
Sometimes the answer is still yes.
Sometimes you need more time.
Sometimes you notice what you wanted before everyone else weighed in.
Give yourself time to check what you want before answering.
One woman who went through this work began telling her children:
“I need ten minutes before I answer.”
She shared:
“Ten minutes gave me time to check with myself before giving the automatic answer. I didn’t need the perfect words. I needed enough time to hear what I actually wanted.”
That is what started to change things for her.
The Six Shifts of A Steady Soul™
Pause → Notice → Hear → Discern → Stay → Trust
Pause
Give yourself a moment before answering.
Notice
Notice what you’re thinking and feeling when someone asks.
Hear
Ask yourself what you want. Give yourself time to find out.
Discern
Consider what you want, what you can give, and what is yours to do.
Stay
Let yourself feel guilty without changing your answer just because you feel bad.
Trust
Practice making choices that include your own needs and wishes.
Their reaction can matter without becoming your answer.
What Begins to Change
Someone asks for help, and you give yourself time to check your plans before agreeing.
You tell someone what you would enjoy doing instead of saying, “Whatever you want.”
When someone sounds disappointed, you pause before offering to change your answer. You can care about how they feel and consider what you need too.
Through practice, you begin to trust yourself more. You have room to help, compromise, and give because you want to.
Your own needs and wishes become part of your decisions.
That also gives you room to explore something deeper.
What gives me joy? What have I missed? What am I here to do?
In A Steady Soul™, there is room to explore dharma: what is yours to do in this part of life.
You can begin with an ordinary choice, an interest you want to return to, or something you would love to give more time.
What Women Have Noticed
One woman said:
“This is a thought-provoking program. Expect to think about your answers even in the days to come after the sessions. A beneficial program sticks with you, as this one will.”
Four weeks later, she said:
“Awareness, interruption of thoughts, inner peace, safety. Independence!”
And when I asked what felt most different:
“Confidence, internal love.”
Another woman told me she had spent years waiting for the “when.”
When the kids are older. When work slows down. When I finally figure out who I am.
What changed was not some big reinvention.
She started noticing the little things again, like coffee on the porch before anyone else was awake.
As she put it:
“Joy was never waiting for me somewhere down the road. It was already here.”
What's Included
Six Live Spiritual Coaching Sessions
A guided six-week process through Pause → Notice → Hear → Discern → Stay → Trust.
Six 90-minute sessions on Zoom. Each week, we’ll explore one of the Six Shifts and practice using it in your everyday life.”
Four Guided Hypnosis Experiences
Sometimes thinking harder does not help you hear yourself better.
These guided hypnosis experiences give you another way to listen, with less analyzing and more time to notice what you actually think, want, and feel.
Simple Practices for Real Life
This work is meant to be used when life is actually happening.
When the text comes in. When your child wants an answer. When your boss asks for one more thing. When someone’s tone changes.
You will have simple ways to pause, check with yourself, and decide what you actually want to do.
The Joy Room
You’ll have Voxer support throughout the six weeks and for one week afterward. I’ll respond within 24 hours
Bring the yes you wish you had waited on, the no you feel guilty about, the conversation you keep replaying, or the choice you are questioning.
And bring the good moments too. The time you paused. The answer you heard. The moment someone reacted and you did not immediately change your mind.
The Bonuses
A few extra ways to help you hear yourself between sessions and after our six weeks together.
Bonus 1: The Empty Cup Reset
A short guided audio for the moments when you feel pulled in too many directions.
Take ten minutes to listen and notice what you need.
Just a little time to notice what is going on and ask:
What do I need right now?
Bonus 2: The Steady Stone
A smooth moonstone mailed to your home as a reminder to check with yourself.
Before I send it, I hold it and set a Reiki-infused intention for steadiness and self-trust.
When guilt or doubt shows up, hold it and remember:
I can care about others and include my own needs too.
Bonus 3: The Steady Deck
A digital deck of prompts and reminders to help you pause and check with yourself.
Pull a card when you are second-guessing yourself, when guilt shows up, or when you just need a minute.
The deck is not there to tell you what to do.
It is there to help you hear your own answer.
Pay-in-Full Bonus: Two Private Sessions
Choose the $797 pay-in-full option and you will also receive two private one-to-one sessions with me.
Bring the decision you keep going back and forth on, the conversation you cannot stop thinking about, or something you want but keep talking yourself out of.
A Few Questions You May Have
What if I don't know what I want?
Does this mean I should always put myself first?
What if someone really is disappointed?
How much is A Steady Soul™?
When does A Steady Soul™ begin?
Join A Steady Soul™
Six weeks of spiritual coaching, hypnosis, real-life practices, and support to help you hear yourself more clearly and trust what you hear.
Pay in full: $797 + two private 1:1 sessions
Payment plan: 3 payments of $285
We begin Wednesday, October 21, 2026
Live sessions are Wednesdays,
11:30-1pm Easter Time
OR
7:00–8:30 PM Eastern on Zoom.
You do not have to stop caring what other people think.
You do not have to know exactly what you want before you begin.
You just have to start with one pause:
Have I checked with myself yet?
The 7-Day Try-It-For-Real Guarantee
Come to the first session and try The Pause Before the Pour™ in your real life.
Notice the moments when you would normally answer before checking with yourself. Give yourself one extra breath and see what happens.
If, within seven days of the program starting, you have shown up, tried the practices, and know A Steady Soul™ is not right for you, email me and tell me what you tried and what you noticed.
If you gave it a real try and still know it is not for you, I will refund your investment.
You do not have to know exactly what you want before you begin.
You only have to start with one pause.
